Health & Wellness

Yesterday when my friend and I were talking about today that it is Janmashtami and all the banks will be closed so we won’t be able to do the bank work and other important works…

I saw a kind of rage in her eyes the next moment when she said, “Why do people celebrate the birthday of a man who did so much of a so much of mischief with women…? Why people have to celebrate the birthday of a man who was so ruthless with women? Who played with the hearts of so many women, he also promised to come back to Vrindavan but he never came back…. What is so great about it?”and then she said she doesn’t like the whole thing about the Krishna culture and all those things… She was naturally very upset because she felt that Krishna always has treated women disrespectfully…. He treated them like property, she was also upset that when he knew that Radha was a married woman why did he start an affair with her at the very first place?

This made me sit down and really think about what she said…. The whole story came to me in a very different perspective and I would want to share it with all of you here… So Krishna was a chor. That’s true! As a child, he was makhanchor and when he went into his youth he became the chit chor…

So let’s understand Makhan Chor first- Krishna’s that part as a makhan chor…So Makhan Chor if we look at Makhan (butter) where does the Makhan come from ?? The only way the Makhan comes is when we churn the milk…. the cream of the milk i.e. the solid parts of the milk that have the molecules closer to each other are the ones that come up and we call it butter ….. Just see, if we spin our lives correctly and appropriately … the only thing that can come out of our life is love…. Love and nothing else but love… If you see this Makhan as love then what were the ladies or what were the women of Gokul doing? they used to churn the milk and they used to take out the butter and thought that itwas their property and they used to keep it safe at a place so high that it doesn’t get in the hands of the little kids because they wanted to sell it off….  They were simply using the butter for only commercial purpose…. They wanted to keep the butter at such a great height that the children do not get it… Krishna always understood what this makhan is….  He always believed in inclusiveness…. He used to say that if you have love for someone then do not intellectualise it by saying that this is for this one, this is for that one, this is for my parents, this is for my children, my siblings or for my husband and this is not for this one, that one or the other one….. Love is something that needs to be inclusive…. Something whose utensil or the pot you should break and let it flow into each and every person because this is made for everyone and you cannot use it like a property or in an egoistic manner…. and that’s what he would do from one friend to the other friend, he would climb up and reach the pot and break free that handi (pot) of love…. and tell his friends that this is for you- have it! So that’s how he became makhanchor…. But his lesson and indication was very clear- love is unconditional…It is for everyone and thus, meant to flow unconditionally…..

After sometime he grew up and he realise that in the society it is the starting of inhibitions the boundations and the boundaries i.e. the inhibitions of the society and in those inhibitions women were the ones who were suffering the most…. sometimes in the name of marriage, sometimes in the name of children… While, Krishna was against all these inhibitions….

Since the beginning he was against with all these rules that were being made against the women which is why he made the women understand that where there is love there is no inhibition, there’s no rule… there is no society, there is only and only inclusion there’s nothing that can be excluded…. In our society when the rules were getting strengthened and were made stronger and stronger, there came in the conditions like- this is my family I love, this is my husband I love, these are my parents I love… and rest others? Who would love them? Krishna used to understand that all of us have come out the living instincts of the jungles we use to have and also from the basic survival systems…. We are now into inclusiveness… Because all of us have a front brain, we have a mind that has the power of imagination and we can now imagine how to live in one territory including so many people together… Something that animals could not do even if they wish to…. This is the basic difference between the animals and us. If this is a difference between us then because of this difference the emotion that is born is love, it should also be divided between all of us and with everyone…. There is no need for any inhibitions… Marriage has always been a thing for convenience…. But why only woman has to inhibit in this convenience why not man? Krishna always understood this inhibition so he first broke this very inhibition by loving a woman who was married and was older to him as per his chronological age…. He loved her and the best part is that every person in Nand village accepted this love because everyone could understand that this love has passion and compassion… It has nothing to do with lust… These days we hardly understand this thing….

Even if our children have platonic friends then we would keep on saying time and again that this is wrong, this is wrong, you have lust in your mind…. We unnecessarily create this lust into their minds even if it was not there initially simply by saying it again and again… There is a difference and we have to understand and respect this difference in friendships, in love, in passion compassion….

Further to this Krishna gave this right to each woman that she could love the one whom she liked and admired…. so for this, even if he had to take many forms or personalities, he did that.He took so many forms and gave the right to each woman that she could love one of the Krishna that she liked so much so that each woman thought- Krishna is mine, Krishna is mine….. It is said that when women of Gokulstarted personalizing their Krishna so much that he became the personal property of each gopi, jealousy started setting in after love…. It is said that there came a time when Krishna disappeared and none of the Radha could find Krishna anywhere…. For a long time, Krishna was not there until Radhas understood that free flow of love does not involve territory, property, jealousy…. When it is free- flown love then it is only and only love an uninhibited love… When they understood it they requested Krishna to come back and that’s when Krishna made them understand the inhibitions of the society that we are wearing, all these rules on women… that the women only at that time were inhibiting so in order to break all those rules of the society this chitchor now became the kapdachor…

Krishna had no interest at all to see the naked bodies of the goppies… He just wanted to tell the women to take it off – all these inhibitions, all these things through which they were covering their bodies… They were just the superficial things, just the illusions or the pretentions of the society… From within each Radha is one… and each Radha has the equal right to love his Krishna and that love one can only receive when one removes all the pretentions of the society off the bodyie all the inhibitions that they were carrying… only then one can receive oneself fully….  That’s what Krishna was doing and we need to understand that it was Krishna, whatever he did then even today no one can do it for women….

He also saved Rukmani… Why did he marry her although he was in love with Radha… Because Radha was his love and that love was till Vrindavan but as soon as he came to Mathura and he got to know that by birth or varna he was a prince and after he kills Kans he would have to look after the kingdom… So immediately he changes his role… Then love one side, duty second side… There was responsibility on him and because of this responsibility even after promising them, Krishna could never ever go to Vrindavan because he understands dharma and adharma… and the dharma is what you are supposed to do… He was supposed to look after the kingdom so he looked after the kingdom…. First thing he understood was that none of the kingdom can run properly as long as the women doesn’t get her due respect and place. So first thing he did was to rescue Rukmani who was forcefully getting married to someone whom she did not love…. Krishna not only saved her from that marriage but also married her and gave her a place in the society…. This is how he told the society that woman if loves someone once then that is not Parityagyata… It is ok to love and not be successful in love…. but as long as you love, love successfully… Their story may get over and they may marry again…

Krishna married 16000 Women and kept his relations with all 16000 queens but the thing to be seen here is most of them were the ones whom he had rescued. Since the society didn’t accept them so he accepted them like his wife and gave them a place in the society…. his name to for each one’s children- sons and daughters…. He not only gave them his name but also presented himself with each one… Just to complete his duty with them… Where did he get these 16000 women? When Krishna killed King Narak …from his harem came all these 16000 women and he accepted all the women to tell the society that if any woman is helpless and because of some reason she is unable to protect herself then it is our duty that the society accepts that woman and to sympathize with her helplessness and give her the respect that she deserves…

Krishna was someone whom no one could know and no one could understand…. And we only started speaking about him – God of Romance, God of Romance like the western countries…. He was not the God of Romance… He was the God of Righteousness and Unrighteousness… If Righteousness and Unrighteousness is there in kingdoms then it is also in home…. Krishna saw both of them…. He was a part of Bhawgat Geeta and also the Mahabharata…. He was a God of Feelings and Emotions as well… In that too he taught us Righteousness and Unrighteousness…. He also taught us the Righteousness and Unrighteousness of kingdom and politics which we later saw in Mahabharata… So let’s see Krishna in a new form… For time being this is sufficient… For sure some day we will sit and discuss about Krishna from the perspective of Righteousness and Unrighteousness….

____________________
By: Ms. Neerja Handa
Spiritual Healer | Clinical Hypnotherapist