Health & Wellness

There are two types of individuals- Authoritarian personality and other is Submissive personality.

People with submissive personality are usually people- pleasers or door mat personalities. They are more concerned about others, their approval and their happiness etc. Whereas, the ones having authoritarian personality try to control others, their lives, they also bully others.

A person becomes authoritarian because of the unresolved childhood issues, there must be too many inner children with different issues, frozen in different time zones. Authoritarian personality people have issues with either of the parent who was an authoritarian too. These people, as a child grow up watching his/her authoritarian parent dominating the other parent who was submissive. Authoritarians try to control the life of others and hence end up feeling lonely. They feel that people are pairing up against them, especially with submissive personality people as submissive personality people are people pleasers.

On the other side, submissive personality people are broken from inside, these people fail to express themselves to authoritarian personality or other individuals.In order to please others they ignore themselves and get busy in pleasing others.Later in life, these people realize that they should learn to acknowledge themselves. They need to take charge of their lives, and learn to say ‘no’ to others and that too, assertively. They need to learn to express themselves to the authoritarians. Assertiveness can be learnt by completing their learnings on earth school, by learning new modalities which can help them completing their learnings. Universe is constantly trying to make us realise to learn to speak up for self, to express ourselves. Submissive people tend to fail to do so because they think more about others and their well-being and happiness. The extreme hardships that the submissive people are facing at this hour is an indication to express and communicate assertively. They should realise that it’s very important to take charge of their life.

On the other side, authoritarians have to learn how to lose control over others and resolve their own issues first. Healing can happen via therapies dealing the internal tussles with their fathers, who mostly were authoritarian in their approach. People- pleasers must resolve their issues with the mothers, who were submissive right from the beginning and didn’t know how to say no to others and taught the same to their children.

They both need to work upon themselves and their respective challenges in order to lead a peaceful and calmer life.

By: Dr. Kavita Bhargava
Spiritual Healer | Hypnotherapist