Health & Wellness

Everyone has heard that Our homes are small units of the world as a Family.

But how many of us do understand it really and practice it in real life. There is no greater power and happiness than having your family united. Doing work together to build the family finances, to add on to the comforts of your family. The more earning members the better the standard of living, less stress and pressure on each member as it is shared by a number of earning members of the family to deal with this responsibility. Each member gets enough quality time with his/ her family. No wonder earlier the families were more flourishing, taught patience to deal with each other and there was genuine love and caring for each other. To the contrast of that, today we have smaller families, more stress and frustration and no longer adjustment characteristics in the members.

It is true a Happy, Healthy Family makes a Happy Home otherwise it is nothing but a structure made of bricks and cement.

A Family that lives, eats together. Grows together, Flourishes together is Blissful.

The 5 C's which are the most important keys to keep a family united are as mentioned below:

The first essential key to developing family unity is commitment. It seems these days that marriages and families are frequently viewed as temporary — even throwaway — conveniences. There's little to no loyalty. Selfishness and self-centeredness can easily get in the way of harmony and happiness in the home. Whether we're a spouse, parent, child, sibling or all of the above, we need to think long and hard about how committed we are to our families' basic physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. What level of sacrifice are we willing to make for the health and wholeness of our family units? Family ought to walk in when the world walks out on us.

Second is the all-important characteristic of compassion. Why is it that we often tend to hurt the ones we should love the most through our unkind words, pettiness, envy, angry outbursts and bitterness toward each other? To demonstrate compassion in the home means to develop a genuinely caring and considerate heart — one that sympathizes and empathizes with the various struggles, fears and difficulties we each possess. And it is more than just something we feel; it's what we do. We must demonstrate mercy and kindness to one another, being patient, understanding and forgiving.

Third is the concept of communication. To communicate effectively necessitates more listening than talking, more concentration than jumping to hasty conclusions, more clarification than condemnation. We must take down our defenses and open our ears and minds so we can take in what our family members are trying to get across to us. Listen with your heart and speak with honesty and humility. Reflect back to the other person what you have grasped from their words to give them the opportunity to clarify any misconceptions.

Fourth comes compromise. I'm not talking about compromising the truth or our moral values in any way. What I mean is that everything — within reason — should be open to negotiation in our families. A healthy family will be characterized by give and take. Certain spouses seem to adhere to the idea that "It's my way or the highway!" Some parents are like cantankerous ogres who never consider their children's legitimate wishes and desires. On the other hand, some children act like spoiled brats who operate with a sense of personal entitlement for whatever they want at whatever cost to their parents. We've got to strike a balance in our families so that wisdom and fairness prevails in the end.

Now due to lack of unity, stress has led family members towards like drinking, gambling etc. No fear of elders.

Oneness in a Family had the power of disciplining each member in every walk of life. Teaching them the value of money, Respect for elders, the spirit of selflessness etc. These have been the base of Indian tradition.

Let's speculate today what we have gained and what we have lost over the years....

~Rima Kohli
otivational Speaker, Soft Skills Trainer, NLP Coach and Relationships Counsellor